Sex Toys for Beginners: What Not to Do and What to Do Instead

Starting with adult toys? Let’s just say you’re not alone if your first steps into this world feel a bit…awkward. Maybe you’re not sure what’s what, maybe you’re embarrassed, or maybe you feel like you have to keep it secret.

Trust me, I’ve been there too! There’s a lot of confusion, nerves, and “Do I even need this?” thoughts. But we’re here to laugh about it a little and take a few brave steps into a world of self-care, self-love, and exploration. Here’s a friendly guide to help you start your journey.

1. Don’t Feel Embarrassed – Do Embrace Your Curiosity!

If your first instinct is to blush or hide the screen every time you browse for a toy, you're totally normal! Embarrassment is part of the experience, especially when starting. When I first decided to try a toy, I found myself whispering questions to friends and feeling awkward even reading product descriptions! Can you imagine how it went when me and my husband decided to open up this shop? I asked him not to look at me while I was browsing products for our collections! I still get embarrassed at times.

But here’s the thing: curiosity about self-care, pleasure, and toys is natural. Embracing that curiosity can help turn embarrassment into excitement! swissembrace.com is here to help you find beginner-friendly toys without the fuss. Our selection is perfect for those taking their first steps into self-care exploration—no need to feel shy!

2. Don’t Go Overboard with Complicated Toys – Do Start Simple

It’s tempting to dive in and pick something super advanced with all the bells and whistles (or buttons and modes!). I made this mistake, and let’s just say I spent more time finding which mode to use than, well…enjoying it! As a beginner, start simple.

Swiss Embrace offers toys designed with beginners in mind, like our classic “Fun & Life” vibe, a gentle, easy-to-use model that’s as intuitive as it is fun. Perfect for those of us who want to feel comfortable without the learning curve.

3. Don’t Worry if You Don’t Know How to Use It – Do Give Yourself Permission to Explore

“Wait…how does this work?” I definitely asked myself (and my husband) that when I first got a toy. We’ve all been there! The fear of not knowing what to do or how to start can feel overwhelming, and it's totally normal. Remember, you’re not expected to be a pro from day one.

Here’s a tip: play around (literally!). Experiment with the settings, find what feels good, and take it one step at a time. Swiss Embrace is dedicated to curating toys that are easy to figure out so you can feel comfortable right away.

4. Don’t Keep It a Total Secret – Do Find Safe Spaces to Chat About It

When I first started, I felt so shy about talking about it with my husband. It felt “dirty” to admit I was curious, even though I knew it wasn’t! But you’d be amazed at how many people around you are exploring toys too, and chatting with others can really ease those feelings.

There are a lot of resources and community support you, so you can feel part of a larger journey. And yes, it’s normal to feel shy! Our suggestion? Start small by reading up on beginner tips or talking with your partner or close friends—take it at your own pace.

5. Don’t Forget Self-Care – Do Treat This as Part of Your Wellness Routine

Many of us grew up with the idea that toys are “taboo,” but they can actually be a beautiful part of a wellness routine. Embracing your self-care rituals can help boost confidence, reduce stress, and bring in more self-love. Swiss Embrace was built with wellness and quality in mind, so you can find products that enhance, rather than complicate, your experience.

Consider starting with beginner-friendly items like:

• For her “Fun & Life”: Small, easy to use, discreet and waterproof, ideal a first-time experience.
• For him "Gilgal Manual": No buttons, no complications, just you and your pleasure.

Final Thoughts: Swiss Embrace is Here for Your Journey

Whether you’re looking for guidance, easy-to-use toys, or even just a friendly chat about it all, Swiss Embrace is here to help you start small, laugh along the way, and feel completely at ease. We believe self-care should be empowering, simple, and, yes, even a little fun. Here’s to your journey, wherever it takes you!